Author Topic: What would you do if your partner was really bad in bed?  (Read 2581 times)

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October 25, 2014, 09:06:35 AM

Offline Ayla

I've had good sex and I've had bad sex and, because I've experienced both types of sex, I have to say, you simply MUST sleep with the guy (or the girl) before things get too serious because, what if the sex is really bad?

What would you do?
What if the person you're in bed with is so horrible at it? Would anyone here be able to tell someone to their face they have no idea what sex is all about? :D

October 25, 2014, 12:29:53 PM
Reply #1

Offline Plaything

I don't think I could tell anyone they sucked in bed no matter how bad it was but I don't know that a relationship would work for me without some great sex.  So, I doubt they would even get a second chance . . .

October 25, 2014, 01:35:18 PM
Reply #2

Offline Fancy

No way I would tell someone they were bad in bed.  But I don't think I would want to have a repeat performance either.  Doubtful they would be any better the second or third time.

October 25, 2014, 10:38:18 PM
Reply #3

Offline Zodiac

Man, I only wish I had someone telling me I was bad in bed, back in the day. I was none too great apparently and it took until my 3rd girlfriend until she said "As well as your self loathing and insecurities, you're not the best in bed...at all...actually"

So I worked on it, thanks to the feedback and haven't had any complaints. I think if your gonna engage in a relationship you should be honest about that kind of thing. Sex is a large part of a happy and healthy relationship and in my experience, things are always fixable. There's always room for improvement from both sides.

October 25, 2014, 10:46:40 PM
Reply #4

Offline Plaything

You're right, if you're in a relationship you should be able to talk to that person about anything . . .but for me, it would be hard to tell someone they were lacking in the bedroom.  And, you are definitely right, there is always room for improvement!

October 25, 2014, 10:51:58 PM
Reply #5

Online Jed

In a way, I may have been lucky.  When I finally started having sex on a regular basis, I was with an older woman who took it for granted I had no clue what to do.  She proceeded to teach me.  Once that was done, I was fine with those that followed.

October 26, 2014, 05:37:38 AM
Reply #6

Offline Ayla

I guess honesty is a two way street then?
On one hand, someone telling you you suck, and not in the good way, can be horrible.
On the other hand, how are you supposed to know you're bad at it?

I didn't tell anyone they were bad in bed.. but now that I think about it I should not have spared their feelings :D I think it would have been better if I just told the truth...

October 26, 2014, 12:11:12 PM
Reply #7

Offline sweetness

I'd tell them and try to be nice about it but l'm not sure they would like it

October 26, 2014, 06:50:13 PM
Reply #8

Offline Fancy

I'm sure some of your partners might be offended but if they are bad you really could be doing them a favor.

October 27, 2014, 04:04:32 AM
Reply #9

Offline Ayla

That's what I wanted to point out.
Men can be testy sometimes :D (no pun intended..)
So, if they're gonna be a baby about it, fine! Instead of becoming awesome in bed they can continue to repel women as far as I'm concerned.

October 27, 2014, 05:32:33 AM
Reply #10

Offline Zodiac

That's exactly right, Ayla. Yes, it sucks to be a guy and told you suck at sex. It doesn't feel good at all, but at if you know, then you can do something about it. You don't spend the rest of your days bedding unsatisfied ladies. We can be testy, but it's only because we're proud and hate to be told such a thing.

I was embarrassed but I learned and was very greatfull it was brought to my attention. Made a habit of making up for it with the girl who informed me as well  :D


September 16, 2016, 08:35:23 PM
Reply #11

Offline Plaything

I know this is an old topic . . .but I had lunch with a friend I hadn't seen in about 6 years today . . .we had lots of catching up to do . . .she is now divorced, she married her high school sweetheart . . .anywho . . .she was telling me she had no idea how bad the sex with him was until after they split up and she started seeing a new guy . . .she said we were together for almost 10 years and he sucked in bed and I had no clue . . .it was funny . . .she hadn't been with anyone but him . . .so she didn't even know he was bad . . .anywho . . .I'm happy that she is finally getting some "good" sex after all this time . . .she deserves it!

September 16, 2016, 10:31:04 PM
Reply #12

Online Jed

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I know this is an old topic . . .but I had lunch with a friend I hadn't seen in about 6 years today . . .we had lots of catching up to do . . .she is now divorced, she married her high school sweetheart . . .anywho . . .she was telling me she had no idea how bad the sex with him was until after they split up and she started seeing a new guy . . .she said we were together for almost 10 years and he sucked in bed and I had no clue . . .it was funny . . .she hadn't been with anyone but him . . .so she didn't even know he was bad . . .anywho . . .I'm happy that she is finally getting some "good" sex after all this time . . .she deserves it!

I swear, I am not this new guy she is talking about.

But it does sound like me.

November 17, 2016, 08:06:19 PM
Reply #13

Offline Plaything

Today has been one of those days . . .I was having lunch in a pretty nice place this afternoon and there were two girls sitting at the table behind us discussing some poor guy that they had both obviously had sex with at some point . . .they were brutal!  Ohhh the thing we over hear sometimes.  They called him Thomas . . .I was trying to figure out if I knew anyone by that name . . .haha!